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Warning Signs

Bullying is a serious problem occurring in children and teenagers. It can be difficult for parents to identify whether their child is being bullied if their child doesn’t tell them. If you are concerned about your child, here are some warning signs that may indicate your child is being bullied.

  • Shows an abrupt lack of interest in school, or refuses to go to school.
  • Takes an unusual route to school.
  • Suffers drop in grades.
  • Withdraws from family and school activities.
  • Is sad, sullen, angry, or scared after receiving a phone call or email.
  • Steals money from home.
  • Does something out of character.
  • Has torn or missing clothing.
  • Uses derogatory or demeaning language when talking about peers.
  • Stops talking about peers and everyday activities.
  • Has physical injuries not consistent with explanation.
  • Has stomach-aches, headaches, panic attacks, is unable to sleep, sleeps too much, is exhausted.
  • Plays alone, or prefers to hang with adults.

Remember, it is important to be supportive and listen to your child if they are being bullied. Speak with your child’s teacher and principal if necessary, and work together to help your child.


Bullying: Tips On How to Help Your Child

Bullying is common today, especially at school. For parents, it can be especially difficult to know how to help your child. Some may feel the need to teach their child how to fight back and others want to confront the bully themselves.

Here are some helpful tips on what you can do if you child is bullied:

  • Say ‘I hear you; I am here for you; I believe you; you are not alone in this.’
  • Say ‘It is not your fault’.
  • There are things you can do.
  • Report the bullying to school personnel.

Also, it is helpful if your child has at least one good friend who they can talk to and who can help them.

Things to avoid:

  • Don’t minimize, rationalize, or explain away the bully’s behaviour.
  • Don’t rush in to solve the problem for your child.
  • Don’t tell your child to avoid the bully.
  • Don’t tell your child to fight back.
  • Don’t confront the bully or the bully’s parents alone.